I have been so lucky in my life. I am eternally grateful for so much. Not least meeting by beautiful Manjula. We have been fortunate to spend over nine years together having created a wonderful partnership first in creating a warm open home, second in establishing Mysore Bed and Breakfast and the family it was at the centre of and third and most importantly a caring, exciting, humour filled beautiful relationship. Thank you my gorgeous Manjula.

It is the most heart breaking experience to lose Manjula. She died this morning in Mysore.

51 thoughts on “Lucky

  1. I was so so sorry to get your news this morning, but not entirely surprised. Your last few messages seemed to have been preparing for the worst. Manjula was also lucky to have found you, you gave her such care and happiness over the last nine years. Thinking of you at this terrible time. Much love Jill

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    • Dearest Steve and the rest of the family.
      We are so very sorry to hear about Manjula. She was such a wonderful person in so many ways. It was a real privilege to have met her.
      Praying God’s courage and comfort especially during this time.
      Love and hugs
      Eric, Rhena, Kitty and Sam.

      • Thank you Rhena, so pleased you got to meet her and appreciate a little how I love her so much. I took her ashes to the Kaveri today. Best wishes Stephen

  2. Dearest Steve I am so, so to hear this news. I can only imagine how devastated you must feel. She was a ray of sunshine and will continue to be so wherever it is we go after we die. She also seemed like a very brave souls who was very lucky to have had you to enjoy the last 9 years with. What a gift for each of you. Sending lots of love. Emmaxxx

    I am standing upon the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white Sails to the morning breeze And starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength, And I stand and watch until At last she hangs like a speck Of white cloud just where The sea and sky come down To mingle with each other. Then someone at my side says “There she goes!”

    Gone where? Gone from my sight.. That is all. She is just as large in mast and hull And spar as she was when she Left my side, and just as able To bear her load of living freight To the place of destination.

    Her diminished size is in me, Not in her. And just at the moment when someone At my side says, “There she goes!” There are other eyes watching Her coming and other voices ready To take up the glad shout, “Here she comes!”

    Henry Van Dyke 1852 – 1933

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  3. So sorry to hear about Manjula, we only met her briefly but she seemed like a ray of sunshine, thoughts with you mate.

    Dave & Debbie

  4. Stephen…what heartbreaking news. I am so glad for the both of you that you made it home in time to be with her. I am sure you brought as much, well almost as much, joy into her life as she did yours. And that joy will continue. Manjula is a special spirit.
    Fondly, Diane

    • Thanks Diane, really appreciate your kind words. She really has changed my life. Had a lovely conversation this evening with Tanu. We were reminiscing of the memories of Manjula we cherish Peas and love Stephen x

  5. Dear Steven

    We are deeply sad to read about Manjula. She was such a lovely creature.
    I wish we could have helped you better.
    Our deepest condolences!!
    Glad, we could spend this days with you in March. April would have been too late to meet her. We will keep in touch and if you need support, please let us know.
    All the best
    Felicia and Gerhard

  6. Dear Steven

    We are deeply sad to hear about Manjula. She was such a lovely creature. Our deepest condolences.
    We are so glad that we could spend this last days with her and that we came in March and not in April.
    Please let us know if we can support you.
    All the best and much love
    Felicia and Gerhard

    • Thank you so much for your kind thoughts. . She was a beautiful woman in so many ways and managed through such a lot of difficult circumstances. Not least her more recent ill health. So pleased you brought your visit forward. Do keep in touch. I’ll try share more about my beautiful wife. She has an interesting history. Thank you so much. Stephen

  7. You were both so lucky to find each other and share those years even though they were surely not enough. They love you shared shone out so bright and clear and was wonderful to be around.
    I can’t imagine your home without her spreading her warmth and I send you strength to move through the days. We send our love to you.
    Your friends in Oregon.
    Abby and Dean

  8. Oh Steve, tears are filling my eyes after reading that. I didn’t know Manjula very well, but feel privileged to have met her, witnessed that smile and those glances between you. She clearly cherished you and you were both lucky to have found each other. I am so sorry, but also happy that you had that time, however brief. I will let Don know and am sure he will want to send you a message in his own inimitable style.
    Take care of yourself. If you are in the UK in the summer, let us know. You are in my thoughts, but I feel such joy at having experienced a bit of time with you both. Manjula was also lucky to have been married to you.

    • Thank you Gill for a lovely message. I’m not at all sure how to deal with this chasm in my heart and life, she was so so special

  9. Dear Stephen
    I am so sorry to Hear this heartbreaking news.
    In the very short time I knew Manjula I was taken by her sweet kind nature and also sense of humour.
    My thoughts are with you at this very sad time

  10. Vasanth called me about this terrible news 😱
    So sorry for you !
    Always i will remember how she taught me how to cook Indian food, our warm complicity , how you both welcome me on the last days of December 2017…
    Thank you so much !
    All the day, i was thinking to the both of you, Francine

    • Thank you for your kind thoughts and memories. Just now I can’t even begin to think what Lucie and I will do without her. Stephen

  11. We only stayed with for you for a few days, our most unique Christmas ever, an Indian nut loaf. Your home was so special and so welcoming and beautiful Manjula will always be remembered by us. I’m so glad you found each other, you made each other so happy. You gave her wonderful memories, I just wish there was more time for more memories. Thinking of you..

  12. Steve,

    I am so, so sorry for your loss – it sounds as though she was an incredible woman and that you shared many special years together.

    You are in my thoughts,

    • Thank you, from a very poor background, she had a difficult life but she always made the best of any situation, created our wonderful,open home, connected with hundreds of people around the world. Above all she was my soul mate which I’ve now lost

  13. Am so very sorry to hear this. I have never forgotten her jaggery chai and kind always smiling face.

    Be well.❤️


  14. Dear Stephen,
    We are so sad to hear about Manjula. Mysore BnB is a special place and it is the special qualities of Manjula and you that have made it so. Manjula’s beautiful gentle strength and happiness will stay with us. We think of you in this time of great loss and absence and send you our warmest wishes, Joan and John

  15. I’m very sorry to hear your time together has ended Stephen. You created such wonderful adventures together in a lifetime of nine special years. Best wishes to you at this sad time, Pete and Helen

  16. Dear Stephen,

    I stumbled upon your BnB when looking for some experiences around Mysore. Never happened to visit you guys but have followed you ever since. Feel like I have known Manjula and her inspiring life over the years through your posts; thanks for sharing your journey. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.

    • Thank you Akshay for your kind comment. Manjula is a great connector, with an open heart, it’s partly how we’ve managed to be at the centre of a warm and growing family. As her own weren’t really with her, Lucie, I and her friends around the world, the family that she chose were all the more important. I’m so pleased you’ve also been able to be part of that and show how it still continues. My very best wishes. Do stay in touch. Stephen

  17. I am so very sorry for your loss. I followed your page with the hope of coming to Mysore one day. Manjula has been a luminous presence in your posts: such warmth in her smile. She was beautiful in so many ways. My deepest condolences

  18. We are thinking of you, Stephen, and can only imagine your loss. We would love to see you and Oliver here in Lake Oswego again sometime (anytime). We would like to hug you and tell you our special memories of Manjula. You were a perfect pair, and that makes everything so much harder for you now. We have “been there”, and send our love. Kathy and Mark
    PS: It is wonderful but not surprising to see the love the two of you have engendered from your visitors and now friends. Please count us in on that score. K&M

    • Dear Kathy and Mark, thank you for your wonderful support. It’s been absolutely horrible as you well know. Sharing my feelings has been a help. Lucie and I are away for a few days in Wayanad and I think she thinks it’s completely bizarre. Just to add to it a siren is now sounding presumably as a signal for work. Just like we hear at the dairy near home. We’re in the countryside now maybe that helps her feel at home 🙃 mad. Chai just arrived. It’s still very confusing and alternating between distressing and beautiful memories. I’m planning a trip to the UK and Canada with half an idea to come down to see you guys. I don’t think Oliver will be able to get away. Im likely to be there from 2nd June for a couple of weeks. Are you likely to be around? Love Stephen and Lucie .

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