Getting out again. A totally new experience.
I’ve worked for a Prince of Wales’s charity and been to some pretty posh do’s. This one was however something else. Yes, Indian and very special.
It was the engagement of my very good friend Vinay to a lovely woman, Tapas. Who I only met at the event itself.
How amazing, a great mix of ceremony, ritual, a spectacular celebration. It was unexpected and astonishing.
It began with a series of traditional rituals involving the couple their parents and family. Held together by the women of the families and the direction of the priest or Poojari.
Ok, I’ve no idea what was going on but impressive, to say the least. I was interested to see another dimension of the modern entrepreneur who I first met and worked with on his then start-up, Royal Mysore Walks (Now expanded and known as Gullys).
We were at Tapas’s home, a coffee plantation, an Estate first established in the mid 19th Century west of Mysore., on the edge of Kodagu.
And then, we were transported away to another part of the estate….. and it’s where the rest of us got more involved! A fairytale.
It clearly took a lot of time, and all sorts of resources and pure dedication to organise it. Yet they managed to keep it informal, down to earth and great fun.
It was very special and seemed to go like a dream.
So what’s Spontaneous organisation?
It’s a new term, from me, another aspect of Indian life. It’s bordering on contradictory, a juxtaposition of potentially conflicting observations and experiences as is so much of India. It’s meaning? It’s formulating as I write.
An example of something well organised, which flows well but teetering on the edge of impossibility. It all falls nicely into place, well organised but not so much that it squeezes the life out of it. It’s a sergeant rather than a corporal. It’s built on experience, it fits well together its sophisticated, not crass nor out of place. It works beautifully and sometimes one wonders how. It is also quintessentially Indian as it never feels false or forced it just happens! …..and yet feels that at any moment it might not.
Thank you to Vinay and Tapas. A great way to mark a new chapter in your life. Manjula and I look forward to sharing aspects of your journey. With our warmest wishes for peas and love, for your life together.
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Vinay just sent me this link.
This is so so beautifully written and emotions so well captured. Thank you so much!
Thanks Tapas, just true, s
What amazing do. Very pleased for Vinay. Was it an arranged marriage? Glad you are getting out, looks like you have been having some fun. Hope Manjula is doing well. Ex
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Yes it was super. They’ve had estate for 15 years so not been in the family. Money comes from diverse portfolio. Not arranged. They met through work. Sisters seem very dynamic. Had good chat with older sis. Manjula losing too much weight. She’s a stick. Don’t seem to be getting to the bottom
of it. It’s a pain. But managing. S x