Life goes on …

It’s Mysore’s biggest annual event when Chamundeshwari is carried through the city on an elephant.

There’s many happenings over the ten days.

Ayudha puja is one of them.

Naveen, Sowbhagya’s son is seen here doing puja for my car and bike.

Ayudha puja is when we ask the gods to bless our tools (in this case, our vehicles), originally our weapons!

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Thank you Naveen

Fresh from watching the ceremony.

Kaveri and me

We’re at one of our fave eateries this evening — Depth and Green— for a great mix of food, drink and experience.

We both had a lovely green smoothie — delicious, with humous and toast for her and sandwich with egg and cheese and veg for me.

A young woman (I wasn’t organised enough to take photos) walked over to introduce herself.

She’d been watching us and was so impressed with how we related , wanting to know something about us and our magic.

We recalled our first meeting in the park opposite my house in Siddartha layout. Kaveri had been visiting her grandmother who was night-watch woman at a construction site next to the park.

That was five years ago. Wow. It’s hard to believe.

It’s disputed but I recall her saying helloooooo as I crossed the park. She reckons I said hello first. Whatever.

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I explained, to the young woman, that my wife MAnjula had died seven years ago. She wanted me to help others from a similar background to her. So I appealed for any suggestions for young people I could support. None came forward, until the fateful day I met Kaveri.

She was impressed how we’d created such a positive bond.

We acknowledged how people might misunderstand our situation (old man and young girl hanging out together) but it made her happy to meet us and realised what a positive caring relationship we had.

My role (and that of the other director) in supporting Kaveri is on behalf of our business ‘Manjula’s Mysore’ which has an agreement with her mother and active involvement of her grandmother and auntie.

Footnote

When people get to know my background :

Qualified social worker from over forty years ago.

Manager of social (welfare) services in U.K. including teams of social workers, assessors and carers

Experience working with children and families, intervening to support and protect children, in some senses a ‘policing’ role on behalf of the state.

Risk assessment of families, ensuring they’re supported when experiencing difficulties and intervening to ensure the children are safe

Assessing prospective adoptive parents

Delivering workshops and providing consultancy on values and ethics, guiding businesses to socially responsible (CSR)

Working with Hindu, African-Caribbean, Bangladeshi, Sikh, white working class and disabled people’s communities

Plus I’m supported by a network of childcare professionals and we’re operating on behalf of our company subject to the agreement it has with Kaveri’s mother.

… they realise this is a professional set up with Kaveri’s development and safety as our utmost priority.

So there’s much more to our Manjula’s Mysore’s involvement over the past five years.

In India, nothing is quite as it seems.

Our successful support of Kaveri involves money, skills and help-in-kind from our business and contributions from past guests from around the world. .

Manjula’s Mysore’s Corporate (CSR) Responsibility has now included: creativity days in schools and for forty visually disabled young women, gifting bicycles, teaching/presentations, memorial garden, cycle tours,, accommodation, ‘reflective space’ for young adults, our care for our community.

Ganesh

Ganesh the remover of obstacles is an important part of our life in Mysore.

Each year at Ganesh Chaturthi we bring Ganesh into our home for Puja and after a few days take him to the Kaveri river by Srirangapatnam

Thank you to Satish and Naveen for accompanying Ganesh to the river today, as we have every year after setting up home in Mysore

Ganesh is also known to create opportunities which on the surface seem to be obstacles for us to meet, learn, develop and grow.

I’m learning…

We hope he’ll help me return to my home in January.

Thank you Sowbhagya for organising.

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Internet info

paschimavahini

Is where we take him. It’s also featured on our cycle tour.

Paschimavahini is a sacred site near Srirangapatna in Karnataka, India, where the Cauvery River briefly flows westward. 

I immersed Manjula’s ashes here.

Significance and Sacred Rituals

Geography: A westward-flowing stretch of a major river is considered rare and highly auspicious in Hindu tradition.

Ancestral Rites: It is a major pilgrimage destination where families gather to perform final rites and immerse the ashes (shraddha) of deceased loved ones into the holy waters.

Mythology: Puranas mention the site as holy, noting that taking a ritual dip here helps wash away sins and grants spiritual liberation (moksha).

Cycle to school

Kaveri suggested we cycle to school. So after a ‘dry run’ on Sunday and a potential wet one yesterday we finally launched today.

We’ve cycled together for over three years and she was confident cycling before we met but it’s provided an opportunity to improve our safe cycling.

Between this and pillion on my Enfield like me, she’s pointing out all the reckless incorrect road behaviour.

That’s my girl

Fruit Thali

It seemed a little hectic this morning. Malis staying with us but not to be seen — yet. Cats fighting in the house in the middle of the night. Kaveri doing last minute revision (maybe) and off to school early for yoga and exam with sports after school.

Kaveri and I had planned to cycle to school this week but that’s delayed to Thursday —- we can’t have too many changes in one day!

Sowbhagya still holding us all together — has now left to do home cooking for her business and will return later.

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Last night we attended a great new event, it’s where we got a thali of fruit… fab!

Great venue, we met the owner and an old friend Sham Sunder the environmental sustainability head of Crest at NIE – National Institute of Engineering who I first met — on a great cycle ride that he arranged — shortly after arriving in Mysore

Held at the Nityotsava Convention Centre

Welcome to 179

We’ve shifted from enlightenment street (Moksha Marga) to

Manjula’s Mysore

Yes, she’s most definitely with us

Images of MAnjula are all around the house, as is her memory wall,

Billet-Doux and messengers.

and her latest portrait from our favourite artist

A certain star ..

And lots of Mangoes

Helping us connect with our new community

and fab trees

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We’re at

Manjula’s Mysore

https://maps.app.goo.gl/eyHFxUAiRUaQd7RW8?g_st=ic

The mouthful of our actual address is…

 No. 179, 10th Cross, 2nd Main, Gokulam 3rd stage, Mysore – 570002

Kaveri and the women in her family.

I had the pleasure of meeting Kaveri from school and spending some time with the women of the family.

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Kaveri and I first visited the new babe.

His mum Radhika (her auntie) Kaveri and I have spent much time together over the past few years, especially in school summer holidays when they’d go to swimming lessons, stay with me and we’d have vacations in Kannur and Wayanad.

The little one, entertained by Kaveri and Radhika.
Gotcha

Grandmother is forever avoiding my camera.

Next I visited Chandrika’s (Kaveri’s mum’s) new home for dinner

I had a lovely catch up with Kaveri and Chandrika drawing the neighbourhood kids in to say hello
I reminded them of the agreement Chandrika and I (on behalf of the business, with the invaluable help of Sarvesh) had for us to support Kaveri and work with Chandrika to help Kaveri do the best she can be

I used the opportunity (hobby horse —soap box) to emphasise we should help Kaveri to be strong, a good communicator, and be kind. This was more important than stuffing her full of facts, in order to pass exams.

Kaveri was the full on interpreter.

We needed to encourage, support, even put pressure on Kaveri — who can be a bit lazy— to do better

Just before I left Chandrika, Kaveri and I went back to bring all the girls together again.

I explained that my current meetings with advocates were to enable me to stay in India My priority being continue to support Kaveri for ten years into adulthood.

I am so proud of Kaveri, MAnjula is sooooo pleased.

A garden takes work

Our garden provides enjoyment.

I’m sitting out in it now awaiting someone from the MCC to take away the waste.

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It’s not only for sitting out.

It’s also provided hundreds of Mangoes for friends, family and neighbours (plus squirrels, birds including parakeets, and fruit bats) to share.

There’s still the later fruit smashing into the ground around me now. — They were too high to reach and crop.

We already know the MCC horticultural department and the commissioner from our partnership to creating Manjula’s memorial garden (see below).

We hope they can pick it up. We don’t want to see more waste dumped by the roadside.