So what next?

We’re about to move into a new house.

It’s been a challenge at times with over ten years grieving after Manjula’s diagnosis.

But first MAnjula and our team has continued to do good

Welcoming guests to our home, helping them to love India in their own sweet way

Supporting young people through …

Sponsoring Kaveri and Naveen’s education

Creating innovative events with NGOs and schools within our community for nearly 200 young people

Gifting bicycles, almost 50 since we got engaged

Regular reflective space meetings at mysore BnB for individuals and groups of young people

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So what next?

We’re moving house and will relaunch (rooms will continue to be available later in the year). Do check http://www.manjulasmysore.in

We’ve committed to supporting Naveen through college and will offer work at the BnB

Our immediate priority will be to sell the art ( ( MAnjula was right, I collected too much) and the money will go towards our next goals in supporting young people (and maybe some more elders.)

Watch this space ..

First move.

Into the new house.

Shifting Manjula’s library to our new house. The team were fab.

Manjula loved the joke

After acknowledging a job well done —— we realised the light switch was trapped behind the shelves.

The gods are nevertheless happy

Celebrating later at home.

Factoid

We opened Manjula’s library after her spirit left for its search.

She’d joked that my constantly bringing books home would lead to her setting up the house as a library when I stop guiding tours at age 75.

So as we never reached there together I set it up in her memory

And now it’s the first bit to establish itself at the new house.

Today : cycle tour, dogs, hanging out

After getting up at 4am to try and sort out the new house agreement, I had fun with the Brits (Charles and Rosie) on a cycle tour, hung out with Luka and Gingee in the drive, and Satish kindly rode my Enfield to be fixed.

I’m beginning to wonder if the first bike accident (a twit coming towards me on the wrong side of the road and round a corner on the ring road! ) — was exacerbated by my tiredness from lack of sleep.

That’s why I was — this and most mornings — awake before four.

The dogs need more contact time and to learn how to behave outside their yard. So we’re bonding and I’m watching carefully (occasionally bossing them) so they don’t chew everything in reach.

Lucie’s death anniversary.

We remembered MAnjula and Lucie today in the field where we buried Lucie.

Lucie is buried under the plant.

Wonderful that guests Maïlis (who was there helping support Lucie on her last day) and Maria and Ani were with us.

Also our loyal team members Satish, Akram and all put together by Sowbaghya.

And then there were dogs waiting to pounce …

They were actually very patient.
Satish carrying one of the matching plants that we’ll have at home as part of our memorial.

Umesh has set it up as

Bow Wow pet resort and cemetery

a place for dogs to go holiday while we go on ours … plus somewhere to bury our pets, and a final resting place for dogs found on the roadside.

More details and how to support Umesh’s work.

New Year’s Day

Thank you Hema for arranging the young generation to join me on a mycycle tour.

Hema has already joined both a Srirangapatnam and Mysore Tour. I obviously hadn’t messed up as she returned with more of the family.

Fab!

Great to meet and spend time together … Harsh, Mitali and
Joshua.

A lovely mix of US and India

Games people play

I like finding similarities that help us find bridge points and make connections.

I’m often sharing experiences of similarity to show how connected we really are… that especially important in our global political environment.

To guests and the young people who’ve joined Manjula’s Mysore’s network I often give this example.

When I meet a new English person they’ll try and figure out where in England I’m from. My accent will easily show I’m from the north of England.

After a little more dialogue they’ll probably hone in on Yorkshire county rather than Lancashire.

Certain words I might use would indicate I’m from a working class background.

I don’t mind that —- fact is,—I’ve crossed many boundaries in my life. A particular help has been going to university, the first in my family.

In India people think class is an insurmountable experience. In my case it definitely wasn’t. In fact I think that, being middle class from a working class background is an advantage.

People I’ve talked to, think class is somehow like caste. I don’t think that’s true at all.

Caste seems so prevalent in Indian life and potentially much more damaging to individuals and society overall.

I think there’s an added issue. There’s a joke that people from north England don’t ‘do’ deference. I think that’s quite accurate

I like to think of myself as egalitarian. Don’t misunderstand — I have my prejudices and being aware of them is a critical step in dealing with it — leading to some personal change.

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I’ve realised one of the additional problems that colonialisation by the British has created for India.

Distraction from other important battles.

It’s the colonialists to blame for diverting the community’s political energies. Unlike in Europe in the 19th and early 20th centuries where the social structure was beginning to be challenged — in India the energies were used necessarily to throw off the outsiders. They missed the opportunity to use that time and people power to throw out the traditions. I hope that the growth of the middle classes, the lower castes using their muscle we might see a correction and move away from the feudal.

Let’s see.

Dharma

I’ve always had a soft spot for Ashoka who was an innovative Emperor in India over two thousand years ago.

He was the emperor who converted to Buddhism after regretting his army killing thousands in the battle to take over what is now part of the state of Odisha.

This week, I’m helping Kaveri with her revision and learning about the Dharma Mahamatras, appointed by the emperor to do good.

I like that

I’m feeling the connections

🤭

Look

We’ve even got our own copy of an Ashoka column, in the house. It was one of the ways he promoted good amongst his people.

So maybe I’m a reincarnated Dharma Mahamatras?

I quite fancy that.

Look at the evidence: social and community work, experimenting with participative democracy in England, radical work with disabled people, ‘Seeing is Believing’ events in India to establish community/business partnerships, facilitating the development of hundreds of community projects and groups, in the name of MAnjula helping young and old people and gifting almost 50 bicycles. I even helped design and deliver — for an Indian company — European-wide workshops on interpreting their ethical policies into appropriate daily business behaviour.

Ok ok, that’s enough of the trumpet blaring. It’s important to say we should be facilitators in helping each other.

Farrell factoid footnote.

What’s the difference between illness and wellness?

I and we, admittedly a joke but with a serious message. We should connect and cooperate to be kind to each other. As sapiens we’ve taken a wrong turning.

I’ve always looked for the ‘we’.

This is so obvious to me.

A top priority is ..

.. Kaveri and helping her develop and grow. When you meet her ask what BK is.

Puppy training

Somehow, I don’t think my trademark— facilitating — is going to work in this situation.

After two days of chaos, we need a new approach. So ….

… we cleaned up the mess

Sowbaghya did a sterling job with my pathetic assistance.

Then some changes..

meals at regular timings, immediately clearing up their mess as soon as they deposit it, more suitable food for young pups, visiting the park to play and poo, and positive encouragement.

Footnote

I keep getting stopped in the street by people in our community who spotted us in ‘The Star of Mysore’

Plus odd stares as we walk into the park with the nameless

Elite Skating

Adithya the coach of elite academy

has been a fantastic help with Kaveri.

Kaveri has changed to a ‘day’ school, spends alternate weeks at mysore bed and breakfast, can therefore now attend the academy on a regular basis.

Today we were at the heats for state races.

Kaveri got a silver.

And was able to spend quality time with friends.

Kaveri has shown she can concentrate, focus and achieve through her time at the academy. I needn’t have worried.

Factoid

In her final race she gestured for her friend to pass her for third place, as she hadn’t been placed before. That’s my girl.