Art again and again

As part of the festivities we attended a fabulous art show at the Art College just across the main road.

Our no 1 pull was to see Pravalika’s wonderful piece of art.

With tons more to appreciate.

I stopped myself from buying anything. There’s already too much to fit into the new house.

But how about a bird for the tree?

What’s the difference between illness and wellness?

I asked AI

Ha ha ha

No no no

I was looking for something simpler and entertaining.

Now that’s much more interesting.

But still a bit boring.

So what is the difference between I and We?

I think it’s a fun question that opens up possibilities, it’s serious and a joke —- as per from a Brit (NOT Britisher as the school text books ram down our throats)

It helps question and challenge our preoccupation with the I, the individualism that’s default in our economic system and societies.

I do believe that more shared and collective approaches are healthier for us individually and collectively.

So it didn’t come from Malcolm

Maybe this next one is true.

Or then again AI might have made it up.

It’s a great lead in to valuing community and challenging individualism.

Whatever …. I often use it in presentations, on guided tours or in the midst of my daft conversations.

It also relates to one of life’s disappointments but that’s another story.

Homework

Kaveri returned to my home yesterday after a week with .. grandmother (aka mummy), grandfather, and the very pregnant Radhika (auntie aka sister)

Followed by dinner with Florian

Set up for selfies at Olive Garden.

Next day— the ordeal of homework with me (helping!)

Listen up

It was the usual basic facts but the bit I didn’t know was Mahavira’s Jain teachings….

It’s pretty cool.

Mysore Moments.

I find myself in interesting situations.

That’s the nature of India.

Meeting women from famous families, telling stories at events, Hindu/Muslim mixed marriages, life is a rich mix of experiences!

Especially at the moment with our annual event

Sophisticated Kaveri with her mum Chandrika.

Attending Kaveri’s Dad’s (he’s deceased) nephews Muslim wedding. Kaveri is Hindu.

I shared a love story but got no photos.

Awards Ceremony for Asha my yoga teacher.

I missed taking photos of the women.

Daughter of a Kannada novelist known as Triveni and sister of the founder of a change-making low cost airline.

Pitru Paksha arrives

The team puts it all together….

Photos and flowers all lined up …

Manjula’s image complete with Mangal Sutra (wedding necklace) and anklet,

Lucie with collar

and Ina with Momo.

Favourite sweets, jewels, nuts, crunchie, alcohol (shh), clothing, fruits,

Biscuits for Lucie (the shop insisted sugarless is best, let’s not get into the detail that it’s for her spirit), Momo for Ina (her favourite, she has great Tibetan links)

All make their appearance …

But where’s lunch?

Next

Sowbaghya has cooked it, Satish, serves it out. It’ll not be for the crows (sometimes food is placed on the roof or beside the river for the crows to eat ) as they represent the soul of the ‘departed’.

Time for the idler to get dressed in his wedding outfit.

We help their spirits on their journey to whatever’s next.

Stephen.
Satish
Sowbhagya
Vasanth

We then leave the house for their spirits to visit, eat and drink, making lots of noise, as we return, so they know to leave and not get caught out.

Only then can we eat.

I’ve told MAnjula we’re moving to a new house. She’ll be with us.

Factoid

It’s now over six years that Manjula continued her spiritual journey. Each year on her birthday and death anniversary we do puja to help her on her way.

From this year we’ve decided to honour all our departed family members on Pitra Paksha, when everyone does the same.

Preparation for Pitru Paksha

On the final day of pitru paksha …

We remember our family members that have moved on.

Helping bring peace to their souls and help them attain moksha or liberation.

Each of the six years since Manjula died we’ve celebrated her in many ways including puja on the anniversary of her death and on her birthday.

Ina would visit us every year in August and died in 2024,

Lucie died in 2025.

Tomorrow, on the final day of Pitru Paksha (21st September) we’ll remember MAnjula, Lucie and Ina with a special puja, all three of them together as they’re family.

Factoid Footnote (found by AI)

Pitru (shradh or Mahalaya) is a holy period dedicated to paying homage to ancestors and departed loved ones

Paksha

A paksha is literally a “side” and represents one half of a lunar month, lasting about 15 days. 

Or half a month on either side of the full moon.

Relates to the waxing and waning of the moon.

I’m getting some of Manjula’s things ready for the puja. SB is doing everything else.

Consistently inconsistent, even academically

That’s my favourite saying about India that I share with guests.

I say it with respect and fondness for my adopted country — obviously.

But — Nothing is ever as it seems.

This article in the Star of Mysore seems to be about ‘guest lecturers’ in colleges and universities.

I thought it was about employees, who weren’t ’on establishment’ ie permanent employees or didn’t have tenure. They do an equivalent job but don’t share the same conditions of service, security or remuneration.

Hence their campaign.

I’d seen this in other government institutions, for example in a museum where there were two classes of employees, namely permanent and ‘contract’ workers.

But here it seems to relate to ‘qualification’ ie whether their qualification was approved by the UGC- the university grants committee. Yet they are teaching.

Got it so far?

I’d realised something of this fifteen years ago. I’d helped out by temporarily lecturing on an innovative MBA designed for managers in NGOs. Set up by an amazing grassroots organisation the Swami Vivekananda Youth Movement at its leadership unit.

I’d have loved to continue as a lecturer (facilitator in my terms) but was put off it, as it would involve a complex bureaucratic process at the university. In any case as a foreigner it would have been extra complicated. That’s not taking into account my Yorkshire accent!? Or awful humour. Or way of teaching.

Fine no issue. I set up our business and did the occasional presentations elsewhere.

But I hadn’t thought until now that my degrees might have also been a problem.

Worse was to come ….

So here’s my latest experience of one small part of this inconsistent world.

In my stressed out attempts to remain in my adopted country I had a fab idea to do a PhD. I’ve recently researched ‘education’ picking up an interest I’d initiated in my first degree and rekindled after deciding to sponsor Kaveri.

The open university showed interest in me doing a PhD with them. I wanted to look into how we could better prepare children for adulthood. Globally, I feel that our schools do a poor job.

That subject links with the ‘golden thread’ that’s found through all my careers, about enabling people to be active participants in the decisions which affect them.

But I stumbled.

The university decided I hadn’t got a masters. I have and it’s an MPhil. Which the UGC in its wisdom recently decided to ban Indian institutions from awarding . I got mine in the 90s after over three years of research. It’s a ‘stand alone’ that radically cuts across disciplines. They’re not even worried about the subject —- that’s Critical Management, which I thought, might be a problem.

I’ve been differently advised that the UGC decision is not backdated and doesn’t relate to international MPhil’s so mine should be accepted but try telling that to the university staff who don’t want to fall foul of the central instructions or diktats.

If you’re really bothered there’s more information here.

Footnote

As you can see, I keep bouncing off brick walls in trying to stay here.

I would have been eligible for residency but not after MAnjula died.

After twenty years of being on a business visa, policies change, and the turnover in the business is not high enough.

So what are my options?

Being a student (see above problems) plus getting the facts about courses is not straightforward.

Another option is volunteering my next idea was to do the education research and experimentation —without the PhD — but with no success so far. I’m too old .. we’re reorganising … our main trustee has died… or so they inform me … but I just want a way to carry on this useful work. Whatever. .

Buying a house, really?

Getting married again, that hurts.

..

Maybe there’s a not-so-hidden-message here.

Maybe I’ve overstayed my welcome and should leave or my principles are getting in the way But that’s another story.

We shared our love

In many ways ….

and Through our home as Mysore Bed and Breakfast

So why is he posting this ???

Our owner wants the house back and as the word has got out our family of friends from around the world have asked me to share this reminder.

Please follow the link for more

and see below

For a tour of our house.