Precious permanent memories

Maïlis has been with us now for almost two months. She’s really got into Mysore, become part of our little community and created a wide range of exciting experiences for herself.

I was invited by her wonderful new friends Pravallika and Cade to visit and find out where they’re learning to carve.

At this family workshop they’re famous for carving significant statues and especially Rama for the new Ayodya Temple

But there was a great big surprise waiting for me.

Maïlis as her very first project had carved our Lucie in stone

How wonderful is that?

Just one month ago Lucie gave up, she’d had too much after managing so well with a painful hip and difficulties with her kidneys. She was strong and brave and her gentle friendly nature had helped her connect with thousands of our guests.

… and a cat

A fantastic image of our precious family member which now has pride of place in our upstairs lounge.

We’re all impressed.

Doge

I’ve been wondering about Doge… why we have it? What does it mean? I realise now it’s not actually a spoof, it is unfortunately real but it’s also a means of checking that we’re properly concentrating.

That we’re awake

.. and hopefully not complete idiots.

It’s actually a joke, in the most serious sense

So have you worked out how to pronounce it? Don’t lose this opportunity for a knowing smirk.

I was thinking on the lines of doggy.



But no there’s something better.

More on the dodgy dog. Sorry to our canine friends….

Footnote

So what is Doge.

Some might say it’s one of the initiatives to fulfil the coup currently happening in the US

Officially it’s…



The head honchos is a certain Musk.

Flashbacks

Today’s conference reminded me of some of my innovations in the 90s

I was inspired by Negroponte’s book ‘Being Digital’ to explore the Internet … and develop projects to help others to do it … before it became monopolised by big business.

Commodore Amiga

A friend Dave and I would use the Commodore Amiga (much more than a games machine) in the late 80s and gopher to visit US Sheriff’s offices wanted lists.

It got me thinking. As Negroponte stated in ‘Being Digital’ we were going through a revolution as significant as the invention of the printing press.

Often my thing was ‘how do we engage people so they’re actively involved?’

Here was a great inspiration

….

My senior role in government with Kirklees Council — who were very supportive of ‘wild thinking’ — had already provided me with the opportunity to innovate.

Here was another possibility: a creative challenge ..

Cyber Coffee Mornings.

Within a year of the introduction of the world-wide-web we hit the local community and throughout the teams in government introducing them to this revolutionary new way to access the internet.

Coffee mornings are community gatherings to meet and share.

Invading these community events with lengths of phone leads, modem, over head projector, LCD panels (what we’d use before digital projectors became available) and a Toshiba laptop.

Cyber Citizens

Was the group that took it to the wider community.

The innovative projects came thick and fast.

We were the first Social Services (social work) department in the U.K. web site in the country and electronic information service

Disabled People’s Electronic Village Hall an idea borrowed from north Europe. This was a community project to promote access to learning about computers, becoming confident and surfing the net.

To help all this along we had ..

An EU — European project to share experiences between Athens, Crete, Manchester and Kirklees.

An exciting time

I initiated the projects but they worked because people got involved including students from the university to make them a success

I was also privately sponsored by Pedigree Petfoods (MARS) to provide a workshop to veterinary nurses throughout the country.

Footnote

Reflection

For many this was an opportunity to make money

But not for me … as usual my motivation was to serve the community.

made me think …

This image relates to a dog a cat and a woman in my life. All of them my queens.

Manjula lit up our lives, even now when her presence is much more mystical.

She wanted to return as a tree to shelter and support us.

The physical manifestation is now just the man and the cat and still thrilling.

Lucie still with us

Sowbaghya is so happy this morning.

Lucie appeared in a dream

She was missing so SB was looking for her.

She saw Lucie appearing in the distance amongst the gods but disappears as she approaches.

So we both went out looking for her in a field but couldn’t find her again.

SB wakes up calling Lucie

We love Lucie who’s still with us.

Lucie lives in our hearts and memories

We love Lucie and she loves us.

the biggest buddies: Manjula, Lucie and Ina

I think it was some time coming but she persevered and we had that bit longer together.

This was expected and I realise now that it had been for some time. I left the republic day celebrations with Kaveri at her school to catch up with Kaveri at the vet hospital after Mailis our guest from north France was kind enough to help.

Life was full of friends, and as I first thought a cheeky owl on our evening walks. We have lovely images of the girls from our rich Indian family

Whether it’s that special woman in our life that we love or our canine companion of 15 years, how can we ever anticipate and of course never replace. We cherish our lovely memories and deal with the heartbreak.

We returned to the field where Lucie was buried amongst other loved pets to do a Puja to help her soul continue on its journey to its next manifestation. We hope to meet again. 

In times past

Lucie invaded the single room dwelling where Kaveri used to visit her grandparents

Its been four years since Lucie has had problems with her Liver, early days one and two

Billet Doux adopted me but before I was able to introduce her to Lucie there was a sudden second invasion. The two became friends, but not the closest, you’ll understand.

I return from visiting Europe to be greeted one last time, both Manjula and Lucie gave a wonderful welcome, now there’s the addition of Kaveri, Sowbaghya and Radhika.

so many birthdays 

August was the time of endless eating cake, to celebrate Manjula’s birthday and since first opening we welcomed Ina our family member from Australia, who would visit every year.

We never knew Lucie’s actual birthday but it somehow didn’t matter (she’s a dog!) as she shared absolutely everybody’s.

Even in the midst of the mayhem of Manjula’s Library Lucie take it all in her stride and acts as a calming influence

I actually think it was Lucie taking over, and maybe Billet-Doux was biding her time.

She might however choose not to come on holiday again. She’s loved visiting Wayanad and Kannur, a real love for Kerala and her local friends. Varnum has become a favoured place for Lucie and the girls, and not just because of the water! 

She’d always get in the middle of things even on the days when Sowbaghya asked the gods to bless the tools 


And of course on holidays we organised for Kaveri’s break from school

she was one cool dog,

Lucie (the old woman) would also join the young things to reflect at our monthly meetings

And in our dreams

It might be time to commission another painting.

PS

Who’d have believed it, the painting wish has taken a different form.

Lucie

Lucie departed on Sunday 26th January

That afternoon we buried her in a lovely field

Today we returned to do 11th day puja to help her spirit find its new home

Then lunch back at home

It’s very sad to lose such a wonderful friend, I miss her—-

—-being at home when I return, going on walks together and just being in my life.

Billet-Doux also misses Lucie

She’s such a famous dog with everyone asking about her.

Research

If I can find a guide (supervisor?) I hope to do a PhD

I’m about to ask people at the university if they can help. 

A big challenge is to work out what type of research to use and what to study, especially as I tend to cut across disciplines. 

But I wonder if I can find someone to help me do a PhD using the sort of research I prefer?

I’ve researched things before but not what we normally associate with (empirical) more traditional scientific research; which starts with some assumptions (such as a hippopotamus sorry hypothesis), then you go gather information to check them out, analyse and conclude. That will indicate if you agree with the assumption or reject it. Hopefully at some point it leads to action. 

I understand why it’s done that way but — my attempts have been a bit different to that — a bit more ‘off the wall’.

In the late 80s we used public meetings, market research panels, a reference group and interviews to find out disabled people’s wants and needs and then writing a business plan from what we learned. This enabled us to reorganise their services provided by the local authority (like a city corporation/council), using the money, the best way

It was called LEVEL BEST. We organised a conference to share our work.

Later, I read a book ‘Being Digital’ by Negroponte about the internet and the future of technology. We wanted to help all the communities to access the internet so invented — ‘cyber coffee morning’ — which was an introduction to the world-wide-web a year or so after it was launched. We set up a team, and delivered it to hundreds of people in the locality. People loved it. My MPhil (critical management) research was to learn about how a project develops, the key roles people take on and what motivates them. I was in and amongst what was happening and changed things in real time depending upon what I learned.

I’ve used the knowledge from that research in many ways, since then. This projects title was CYBER CITIZENS.

Career-wise, it helped me shift from being a manager in government to be a facilitator and consultant with multi-national companies. 

A few years later I was asked to work in a small town to help bring people and organisations together. I facilitated it on behalf of the council to help respond to the community needs in our planning, help organisations collaborate and respond by developing new projects and practices.

A challenge for all governments is to develop continuing relationships with its voters between elections. Things change so quickly and representation needs to be supplemented. As I began the project I was interviewed by the local journalist. He asked me how I’d decide what projects and ways of consulting I’d develop. My response was that I’d try different things and go with what worked. Over thirty years later some of the projects are still going strong. That’s a form of action research. It was called CANDo

I develop slogans and brands and my methods are most like market research which always involves action and continual analysis. I was often the participant who is constantly observing and analysing with groups and networks to advise and support 

All of my research has been ‘suck it and see’ and actually sometimes lead to quick responsive action.

It’s usually been about …

Creating opportunities to involve stakeholders (those with interest and influence) and making things happen, as we go along. That’s not waiting for wisdom to be handed down.  

If I even go back to my earliest jobs after graduating I supported groups of young people who were ‘in care’ to share their opinions with their social workers, helped develop half way houses to help them develop the skills to become independent. This was critical as many had lived in institutions.

I became coordinator of Notting Hill Social Council continuing their work from the 50s. This involved working with the diverse communities (African Caribbean, Moroccan, Indian sub continent, Filipino peoples) to raise people’s voices, influence the council and develop community responses

It’s probably no accident that I’ve facilitated workshops in London for over twelve years based on developing values based organisations built on  stakeholder engagement.

When I helped organise events in India starting in 2006 we created interactive experiences  with Indian communities for company directors from multi-national companies to learn and inform their business strategy. I featured pukar at the first of these events as they followed a similar approach to mine https://pukar.org.in in engaging stakeholders. 

So, I’ve done lots of research but usually through the active engagement of the communities themselves.

I wonder if I can find someone who help me do a PhD using the approach I have experience of: participant observer, dialogue, reflection, real time action?

I hope so.

This idea of doing a PHD isn’t really new, in some ways I’ve been building up to it for years. In each of my roles I’ve tried to help people learn by doing and becoming active participants. More recently it’s arisen from Manjula Mysore’s support to young people through creativity days, reflective space and the sponsorship of Naveen and Kaveri.

It’ll somehow relate to this.

It also reflects the work I first stared on my BA in the 1970s 

I just hope I can find someone at the university who will support a slightly different approach.

So what will it be about?

Watch this space.