Lucie

Lucie departed on Sunday 26th January

That afternoon we buried her in a lovely field

Today we returned to do 11th day puja to help her spirit find its new home

Then lunch back at home

It’s very sad to lose such a wonderful friend, I miss her—-

—-being at home when I return, going on walks together and just being in my life.

Billet-Doux also misses Lucie

She’s such a famous dog with everyone asking about her.

Research

If I can find a guide (supervisor?) I hope to do a PhD

I’m about to ask people at the university if they can help. 

A big challenge is to work out what type of research to use and what to study, especially as I tend to cut across disciplines. 

But I wonder if I can find someone to help me do a PhD using the sort of research I prefer?

I’ve researched things before but not what we normally associate with (empirical) more traditional scientific research; which starts with some assumptions (such as a hippopotamus sorry hypothesis), then you go gather information to check them out, analyse and conclude. That will indicate if you agree with the assumption or reject it. Hopefully at some point it leads to action. 

I understand why it’s done that way but — my attempts have been a bit different to that — a bit more ‘off the wall’.

In the late 80s we used public meetings, market research panels, a reference group and interviews to find out disabled people’s wants and needs and then writing a business plan from what we learned. This enabled us to reorganise their services provided by the local authority (like a city corporation/council), using the money, the best way

It was called LEVEL BEST. We organised a conference to share our work.

Later, I read a book ‘Being Digital’ by Negroponte about the internet and the future of technology. We wanted to help all the communities to access the internet so invented — ‘cyber coffee morning’ — which was an introduction to the world-wide-web a year or so after it was launched. We set up a team, and delivered it to hundreds of people in the locality. People loved it. My MPhil (critical management) research was to learn about how a project develops, the key roles people take on and what motivates them. I was in and amongst what was happening and changed things in real time depending upon what I learned.

I’ve used the knowledge from that research in many ways, since then. This projects title was CYBER CITIZENS.

Career-wise, it helped me shift from being a manager in government to be a facilitator and consultant with multi-national companies. 

A few years later I was asked to work in a small town to help bring people and organisations together. I facilitated it on behalf of the council to help respond to the community needs in our planning, help organisations collaborate and respond by developing new projects and practices.

A challenge for all governments is to develop continuing relationships with its voters between elections. Things change so quickly and representation needs to be supplemented. As I began the project I was interviewed by the local journalist. He asked me how I’d decide what projects and ways of consulting I’d develop. My response was that I’d try different things and go with what worked. Over thirty years later some of the projects are still going strong. That’s a form of action research. It was called CANDo

I develop slogans and brands and my methods are most like market research which always involves action and continual analysis. I was often the participant who is constantly observing and analysing with groups and networks to advise and support 

All of my research has been ‘suck it and see’ and actually sometimes lead to quick responsive action.

It’s usually been about …

Creating opportunities to involve stakeholders (those with interest and influence) and making things happen, as we go along. That’s not waiting for wisdom to be handed down.  

If I even go back to my earliest jobs after graduating I supported groups of young people who were ‘in care’ to share their opinions with their social workers, helped develop half way houses to help them develop the skills to become independent. This was critical as many had lived in institutions.

I became coordinator of Notting Hill Social Council continuing their work from the 50s. This involved working with the diverse communities (African Caribbean, Moroccan, Indian sub continent, Filipino peoples) to raise people’s voices, influence the council and develop community responses

It’s probably no accident that I’ve facilitated workshops in London for over twelve years based on developing values based organisations built on  stakeholder engagement.

When I helped organise events in India starting in 2006 we created interactive experiences  with Indian communities for company directors from multi-national companies to learn and inform their business strategy. I featured pukar at the first of these events as they followed a similar approach to mine https://pukar.org.in in engaging stakeholders. 

So, I’ve done lots of research but usually through the active engagement of the communities themselves.

I wonder if I can find someone who help me do a PhD using the approach I have experience of: participant observer, dialogue, reflection, real time action?

I hope so.

This idea of doing a PHD isn’t really new, in some ways I’ve been building up to it for years. In each of my roles I’ve tried to help people learn by doing and becoming active participants. More recently it’s arisen from Manjula Mysore’s support to young people through creativity days, reflective space and the sponsorship of Naveen and Kaveri.

It’ll somehow relate to this.

It also reflects the work I first stared on my BA in the 1970s 

I just hope I can find someone at the university who will support a slightly different approach.

So what will it be about?

Watch this space. 

Life without Lucie

I’m in tears as I prepare to walk to the photo shop. Sowbaghya and I have sorted through many photos

We want photos for outside the house and the planned puja — as many people are asking where’s Lucie?

As I set out I pass her leads and then notice her water needs filling.

We love Lucie.

Our special friend

My dear Lucie. 

We met when someone had dumped you, your brother and sister at the end of our street. 

We’ve had so much fun together. Almost from  the very first moment I came to live in Mysore. 

It didn’t take long for you to realise where the kindly Firangi,  — who fixed your skin problems and regularly fed you — came from, so you all followed. 

The man who lived downstairs was less keen on the black — India street dog and her siblings— setting up home under our tree. This was… Exactly where you came to rest on Saturday when you were feeling ill and went back to that same tree. 

We’d chase and roll around in the park, with Vis another street dog becoming a friend. 

In time I found homes for your brother and sister. You had the op at People for Animals, with a neat ‘bite’ taken out of your ear so you wouldn’t be re-captured and spayed again. (When I first visited India I wondered why many street dogs had a bite taken out of an ear. — it wasn’t another dog! ) 🤭

You became part of our wonderful family 

Whenever neighbours saw me without you, they’d want know where you were. I even went to a hotel miles away on the other side of the city where a waiter asked where you were! He also lived in Siddarthanagar

It’s not surprising that you were so well known as we walked through the layout four times every day.

Now I have to go to the bakery, cafe and chai shop on my own.

When Manjula’s spirit moved on we had a lovely portrait painted of you both

I miss you both so much, hope you find each other, in your new lives. I’ll catch up with you eventually but in the meantime, I’ll now introduce you and share you both with even more people. 

Friends from around the world are sending their love and sharing their memories.

Billet-Doux is still looking for you here and expects our walk last thing at night with the owl flitting above us

Our friendly owl

Missing you. Our life was ….

What a Wonderful family and friends we had. .

Until the next time

love

from us all and especially Sowbaghya, Billet-Doux, Kaveri,  and Stephen. 

Farewell Lucie

Last Sunday was already busy. 

The BnB was full. 

Two sets of guests leaving and two more arriving. Four of us visiting Kaveri’s school for the republic day celebrations.

Kaveri was superb as the narrator of the skit.. surely a coincidence that it had a demo against the English, demanding they leave the country. 

🤪🤔🤭

Of course it was. 

and singing

It was not to be a quiet day.  

Mailis kindly agreed to go with our driver Akram to take Lucie to the vet hospital, whilst I fulfilled my Kaveri duty. 

Lucie has attended daily for the past week to be put on a drip (clean out her kidneys?) and be pumped full of drugs. It was worth a try but it’s not made much difference and then on the Saturday evening she seemed far far worse. She had difficulty standing or walking or did endless turns to lower herself and sit down. She even slipped out of the house and through the gate, which has not been allowed for some time now.  

I looked all over to for her. Eventually finding her at the front of the house, beneath our lovely tree on a pile of leaves. 

Exactly the sort of tree that MAnjula imagined being reincarnated as, because it sheltered and supported people.  

She was always — attentive, present and above all — kind

I expect it was looking for the comfort that attracted Lucie but I imagine her collapsing as she’d lost the energy to do much else. She knew and had gone to ground. 

And … Manjula continues to support us all. 

I thought I just heard Lucie clicking as she dragged herself up the stairs.

Not to be. 

I explained to Kaveri that her good friend was finding life too much. I left her in tears — but comforted by each other —-at the end of her star performance  

We grow closer with every shared experience

I leave for Leela the animal hospital. Madan, the founder reveals that we could continue to wash out her kidney (or liver? I’m already in a daze) but that seems pointless. He’s being kind.

It’s time.

She’s even had a couple of fits. 

I sign the document. I continue to hold and comfort her. I want to be with her as it’s best. She relaxes and her eyes glaze. 

Goodbye my precious friend.

It’s been a year since she’s found the stairs a little challenging. I would joke about installing a stair-lift! — we’d worked it out, but for no longer. 

We all have to adjust, again

Slow realisation

Sun 26 Jan 

I get home to less.

An abnormal day, amongst the multitude of such days.

But today another family member departed 

As I returned home I slowly realised Lucie would not be here to greet me. 

Sowbaghya had earlier invited our team to pay their respects and fill the house with love, as Lucie began to reach her  last legs. This was, while I was being an attentive ‘parent’ to Kaveri at her school. 

That’s two. 

I’m missing too much …

… there’s a gap which far exceeds their size. Their imprint is ginormous

Girls are back in town

Radhika was 17 this week so with Kaveri back for a skating race we made Sunday into an extra celebration.

Happy Birthday

Radhika B Radical

Skating and school was tiring
Radical’s fiancée did the honours and it now lives in what’s fast becoming Kaveri and Radhika’s room at the BnB
In my role as one of Kaveri’s extra mums I’m finding the best moisturiser.

Kaveri grows fast.

Manjula’s Library

It started out as a joke.

Manjula complained about me filling the house with art and books —- and we were running out of space.

She decided that when I was seventy-five (that’s right, i’m —not yet) and stopped leading MYcycle tours (big assumption there) we’d open the house as a library.

In her memory I closed one of the bedrooms to reopen it as ‘Manjula’s Library’

There’s now hundreds of fiction and non-fiction books in English, including those about education, India, history, philosophy, for adults and children.

It’s an idiosyncratic mix already used by our guests, the members of ‘reflective space’ and the time I spend with young people.

My own favourites are the picture books.

It changes by the day ….

… check out the new arrivals.

Yes, it’s not JUST books, we now have a selection of cool badges.

Birthday happening

Well if ‘last’ years birthday is anything to go by I’ve fully localised.

31st December can seem a weird day for a birthday. Or maybe not.

Endings and beginnings

There’s always multiple celebrations

It was wonderful.

A steady stream of lovely friends making it a day to remember.

Plus my girls were here (kaveri and Radhika) having missed Christmas together, we shifted Christmas to the morning and began my birthday at noon 12.35 sharp 🤭

and Rinkal and Sheetal are seriously becoming an integral part of the team. Welcome to you.

and I became Pinocchio, it was my alternative to being fed cake… repeatedly.

Next morning

Radhika borrows one of Kaveri’s Christmas presents They are ‘sisters’, you’ll understand.
Lucie prepares to go to the vets.

Happy New Year.

Anti-campaigning

Anti-nuke

In the 1970s and 1980s, in my early adult years I joined political campaigns and demonstrations. I believe — that’s part of our democratic rights — nowadays the right wing media might label it woke in a divisive way.

We marched and disrupted against war in principle and the locating of US Cruise missiles in the U.K., in particular.

More recently I’ve revisited one of those places and had people from the military on my training workshops. For example, I participated in research about drone bees on Greenham common ewhere the cruise missile airfield is now closed. I’ve also had a manager from the warfare research institute attend one of my corporate workshops (on ethics 🤔🤭) in London.

Non-violent campaigns.

There’s a long tradition of this around the world, given focus and energised by Mahatma Gandhi in the campaigns against the autocratic, racist British colonialists in India

In addition to anti-nuke demos from the Campaign for Nuclear Disarmament or CND (1950s onwards so before I was born) we campaigned against apartheid and fascism.

Modern day examples might be seen as the response to Gaza

BUT in countries around the world governments (for example in the U.K.) are legislating against peaceful demonstrations or intimidating demonstrators through arrest (or in India demolishing their homes.)

Our democracy is diminished through these actions. Our rights to challenge and demonstrate are critical parts of an active participative democracy.

Footnote

Let’s be absolutely clear and challenge a blatant untruth here in India.

The demonstrations in the west against the inhuman attacks on Gaza are organised and attended by a great big mix of different people from all communities including Jews and Muslims.